5 Action Steps When You Don’t Know What to Say

dont know what to sayWe’ve all been there.

We all hate it.

We all know the feeling.

When you don’t know what to say, or you’re about to run out of stuff to say, you can feel it, right?

Maybe you’re talking with someone you’ve already met once or twice when you run out of the obvious “getting to know you” type chat.

Or you had something in mind to say next but suddenly, poof! You forget what it was, the other person stops talking and the awkward silence starts to build.

When stuff like that happens to me, I begin to feel a little sick to my stomach.

I have a tiny freak out thinking, “No, not again! I don’t want ANOTHER person to think I’m quiet and boring!”

We all want a way out of that humiliating silence.

So here’s a 5-step process to help you come up with the words you need when you don’t know what to say.

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Why Being Introverted is a Good Thing (TED Talk Video)

introvertDo you consider yourself to be an introvert?

If you do, have you ever felt guilty for wanting your alone time?

Like when you just want to be with your thoughts and people ask why you’re so quiet or “what’s wrong?”

Or at work and in school, you’re forced into group activities before you have a chance to sit and think things through properly by yourself. Then when you’re “caught” just trying to work things out in your own way, you’re criticized for not being a team player.

Frustrating?

Then you’ll definitely relate to this recent TED talk video from author and introversion expert Susan Cain called “The Power of Introverts.”

In it, she explains why not only is it OK to be introverted, but why in many cases it’s better!

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Review of “Big Talk” Communication Skills Course (the Good & Bad)

Big Talk Conversation Skills Training Course

Full Review of Big Talk Conversation Course

Here’s my honest review (the good & the bad) of the Conversation Skills Training Course “Big Talk: Effortlessly Talk to Win Friends Anywhere with the Real You” by Joshua Uebergang.

This is my “best pick” recommendation on a comprehensive course to improve your conversation skills, overcome shyness & just feel comfortable in your own skin.

Usually when you buy a book or course, you read the table of contents to see if it’s something you’d like. Well this course is in e-book form, so you might not have that opportunity. So I’ll go through the table of contents of my copy so you’ll have a better idea if it’s what you’re looking for.

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Free Video Series Now Live: “Secrets to Rockin’ Social Skills & Self Esteem”

Just a quick post to announce the Social Success Video Series is now live. Video 1 is available for viewing.

As I’ve mentioned elsewhere, this is a RE-MAKE of my popular Conversation 202 Audio Course. I decided to re-create the series because of all the great questions and insights I gained from my readers since I made the first version of the course.

It now has techniques and principles more helpful to your specific social problems.

Just enter your name and email in the form below and I’ll send the video direct to your inbox.

 

You can also find out more about the new video series by reading this post.

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Free Social Success Video Series for You (Re-make of Popular E-course)

So many of you have been asking, “what’s this big new thing you keep hinting at?”

Well the truth is…it’s “sorta” new.

I’ve decided to re-make my free conversation audio course into a FREE VIDEO COURSE with new material and improved lessons.

While the previous course was popular, I got several questions and suggestions from readers (especially in my survey), so I figured I’d re-create it with these in mind.

I switched from audio to video because it gives you more ways to absorb the information and really take the lessons to heart.

Best of all, it’s still free.

For now, here’s the most important part…

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Survey Results: Do You Also Have These Common Conversation Problems?

Common Conversation Problems

Common Conversation Problems Survey Results

Finally, the results are in…

At the end of 2011, I sent out a survey to my readers asking their major problems/questions on conversation skills and social success.

The answers you sent back were varied, but shared a few common themes.

Some of you have been asking the results of that survey, so I’m happy to oblige. Plus, it can be a relief to know you’re not alone; others have your exact same challenges socially.

Which of these do you share?

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