Social skills take time to bloom
But once I did, I felt a lot less self-loathing and stress at my lack of social ability.
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One of the Most Valuable Lessons I’ve Learned to Improve Social Skills
How to Be Friendly: 5 Tips to Be More Likeable
Does it take longer for you to make friends?
Too long sometimes?
Like maybe in the past, when you’ve switched jobs or transferred colleges or cities, people just didn’t seem to engage you or try to make friends.
And even with the few who did engage you first, things didn’t take off. You just got the feeling everyone wished you’d lighten up.
You know in a couple months you’ll probably sway some people who enjoy talking with you, but you’d rather it not take so long.
It’s all got you worried you’re just not giving off that friendly vibe.
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How to Stop Over-Thinking When You Want to Talk to Someone (Reader Question)
Sometimes, don’t you wish you could just get your brain to SHUT UP?
Maybe you see a cute guy or girl you want to talk to or your boss looks free to chat at the company picnic. So what do you do?
Your head starts spinning up scenarios right?
You think of what you should say first and the way you’ll say it. Then…wait… Maybe you should say it another way that might work better. Yeah, and then if they reply in a certain way, you’ll come back with…
…oh drat. Someone else is talking to them now.
Aaargh! How do you stop the madness? How do you stop over thinking so you stop missing out on your life?
The Will Ferrell Guide to Overcoming Shyness
Chazz Michael Michaels: “Mind bottling, isn’t it?”
Jimmy MacElroy: “Did you say mind bottling?”
Chazz Michael Michaels: “Yeah, when things are crazy and it’s like your mind is trapped in a bottle…”
- Blades of Glory
Being shy can feel like you’re trapped in a glass cage of emotion, right? You’d like to hang out with the “cool people” or just be more outgoing, but you can’t bring yourself to do it.
Believe it or not, comedian and movie star Will Ferrell says he used to feel that way too. Despite the fact he’s now one of the most successful comedic actors of all time (seemingly with no inhibitions), he admitted he was once “painfully shy.”
So how did he change?
Well, in this post I’ll tell you, but you might not like the answer. The technique Ferrell used is not exactly for everyone. On top of that, I think it’s only part of the solution to fully overcoming shyness.
So in addition to revealing how Will Ferrell went from shy to Superstar, I’ll give you some bonus tips to overcome shyness so you no longer feel like you’re taking crazy pills.
7 Sure-Fire Ways to Quickly Improve Self Confidence
What aren’t you doing in your life right now because you lack self confidence?
That can be a big question, because self confidence is so vital to happiness and feeling capable in life. Without it, you get less respect from others, you fear going after your dreams, and you just feel lousy about yourself.
And while building “soul-deep” self esteem can take time, there are ways to begin building practical self confidence today. Here are 7 easy tips to start growing your feelings of self worth quick.
What is Shyness (and Why NOT Knowing Keeps You Shy)
What shyness feels like sometimes
“It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It’s that they can’t see the problem.”
–G. K. Chesterton
Which one are you?
Tongue-tied…quiet…shy…socially anxious…broken…
However you label yourself, if you have trouble talking to people at times you likely suffer from shyness symptoms. And while you probably just want a solution, in reality understanding the problem is the first step to learning how to overcome shyness.
See, often people who experience symptoms of shyness over extended periods (like, say most of your life), just tend to think something is wrong with them.
This is especially true in American culture. Here in the land of the free and the brave, being outgoing, competitive and bigger than life is praised and held as the ideal. If you’re not like that, you can feel “broken.”
Well of course that’s not true, but knowing this intellectually often doesn’t help. You still FEEL you don’t measure up. The problem is, just feeling you’re “broken” keeps you stuck.
You can’t fight that. That’s not “fixable.”
Shyness IS fixable, and if you’re reading this, it’s likely some form of shyness is what’s keeping you quiet, awkward and separated from the life you want. That’s why it’s important to understand what you’re up against so you can begin to find a solution. [Read more...]
