How to Be Social at a Party (With People You Don’t Know)

how to be social at a partyYou walk in the front door of an acquaintance’s house party, and 15 people you’ve never met turn to see who you are.

Wow. What to say? What to do?

Hey, I’ve been there too and it’s not fun. I often felt uncomfortable at social gatherings and it held me back from developing a social circle.

I mean, I’d do fine with friends I was already comfortable around, but if I was at a party where I didn’t know people well or at all, I clammed up. I’d stick to my group of friends and that’s it.

Sometimes I’d do OK and talk to “strangers,” but for the most part it never lead to deeper or “normal” type of conversations.

And the worst part was when someone louder or more assertive would join the group. I’d suddenly feel invisible and not interesting enough. That made me sink even further into my shell.
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The Will Ferrell Guide to Overcoming Shyness

 
Overcoming Shyness

Chazz Michael Michaels: “Mind bottling, isn’t it?”
Jimmy MacElroy: “Did you say mind bottling?”
Chazz Michael Michaels: “Yeah, when things are crazy and it’s like your mind is trapped in a bottle…”

– Blades of Glory

Being shy can feel like you’re trapped in a glass cage of emotion, right? You’d like to hang out with the “cool people” or just be more outgoing, but you can’t bring yourself to do it.

Believe it or not, comedian and movie star Will Ferrell says he used to feel that way too. Despite the fact he’s now one of the most successful comedic actors of all time (seemingly with no inhibitions), he admitted he was once “painfully shy.”

So how did he change?

Well, in this post I’ll tell you, but you might not like the answer. The technique Ferrell used is not exactly for everyone. On top of that, I think it’s only part of the solution to fully overcoming shyness.

So in addition to revealing how Will Ferrell went from shy to Superstar, I’ll give you some bonus tips to overcome shyness so you no longer feel like you’re taking crazy pills.

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7 Sure-Fire Ways to Quickly Improve Self Confidence

 
Build Self EsteemWhat aren’t you doing in your life right now because you lack self confidence?

That can be a big question, because self confidence is so vital to happiness and feeling capable in life. Without it, you get less respect from others, you fear going after your dreams, and you just feel lousy about yourself.

And while building “soul-deep” self esteem can take time, there are ways to begin building practical self confidence today. Here are 7 easy tips to start growing your feelings of self worth quick.

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What is Shyness (and Why NOT Knowing Keeps You Shy)

 

What is shyness

What shyness feels like sometimes

“It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It’s that they can’t see the problem.”

–G. K. Chesterton

Which one are you?

Tongue-tied…quiet…shy…socially anxious…broken…

However you label yourself, if you have trouble talking to people at times you likely suffer from shyness symptoms. And while you probably just want a solution, in reality understanding the problem is the first step to learning how to overcome shyness.

See, often people who experience symptoms of shyness over extended periods (like, say most of your life), just tend to think something is wrong with them.

This is especially true in American culture. Here in the land of the free and the brave, being outgoing, competitive and bigger than life is praised and held as the ideal. If you’re not like that, you can feel “broken.”

Well of course that’s not true, but knowing this intellectually often doesn’t help. You still FEEL you don’t measure up. The problem is, just feeling you’re “broken” keeps you stuck.

You can’t fight that. That’s not “fixable.”

Shyness IS fixable, and if you’re reading this, it’s likely some form of shyness is what’s keeping you quiet, awkward and separated from the life you want. That’s why it’s important to understand what you’re up against so you can begin to find a solution. [Read more…]

Top 8 Tips On Fighting Depression

 

Fighting Depression

Depression can be serious but there are ways to minimize it's effects

The following is a guest post by Tina Miller. Remember, depression can be a serious issue and if you think you need it, you should seek professional help.

Depression is common when a person is under a lot of stress (mainly caused by problems that are not easy to handle).

Depression slows down your immune system; affects your work pace; the way you think; disrupts your daily routine and can even give you physical pains for no apparent reason.

Depression should not be underestimated.

Fighting depression won’t cost much of your time but it will require a little effort and a lot of positivity. Here are some of the best tips on how to fight back depression:

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Why Being Introverted is a Good Thing (TED Talk Video)

 
introvertDo you consider yourself to be an introvert?

If you do, have you ever felt guilty for wanting your alone time?

Like when you just want to be with your thoughts and people ask why you’re so quiet or “what’s wrong?”

Or at work and in school, you’re forced into group activities before you have a chance to sit and think things through properly by yourself (so you can think through what you want to say).

Then when you’re “caught” just trying to work things out in your own way, you’re criticized for not being a team player.

Frustrating?

Then you’ll definitely relate to this recent TED talk video from author and introversion expert Susan Cain called “The Power of Introverts.”

In it, she explains why not only is it OK to be introverted, but why in many cases it’s better!

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Review of Big Talk Communication Skills Training Course (the Good & Bad)

Big Talk Conversation Skills Training Course

Full Review of Big Talk Conversation Course

Here’s my honest review (the good & the bad) of the Conversation – Communication Skills Training Course “Big Talk: Effortlessly Talk to Win Friends Anywhere with the Real You” by Joshua Uebergang.

Does it really help you improve your conversation skills, overcome shyness and feel comfortable in your own skin?

Well just from seeing the cover, it’s hard to tell isn’t it?

After all, when you buy a book or course, you usually read the table of contents to see if it’s something you’d like. Well this course is in e-book form, so you might not have that opportunity. So I’ll go through the table of contents of my copy so you’ll have a better idea if it’s what you’re looking for.

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How to Use Cold Hard Cash to Improve Your Social Skills

Interpersonal Communication Skills Important for Career AdvancementYou want better social skills, right?

Because if your people skills rock, you can easily make new friends and have fun in social situations wherever you go…duh.

Well, that’s not the only reason social skills are important.

According to more than 1,400 Chief Financial Officers, having great interpersonal communication skills leads to COLD HARD CASH.

And believe it or not, knowing this can help you to finally get better in ALL your conversations.

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