How to Not Care What People Think?

how to not care what people thinkWhen walking into a new group of people, do you often wonder what to say and stay quiet instead of acting natural and spontaneous?

Deep down, do you find yourself thinking:

  • “What is this person going to think of me if I say this?”
  • “They’re probably not going to want to hear about this.”
  • “If I go talk to her, she’ll blow me off and everyone will see.”

If so, it’s probably because you’re so concerned with NOT screwing up, you forget to have fun and express who you really are. This was a problem I had (and that I’m still working to improve) that kept me from getting the most out of my life.

But what if you didn’t care so much about all that? What if disapproval from others simply rolled off your back? What if, instead of trying so hard to avoid rejection, you simply didn’t give a damn about it anymore?

That’s why learning how to not care what people think of you is important.

Here are some suggestions to help you get there.

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One of the Most Valuable Lessons I’ve Learned to Improve Social Skills

improve social skills

Social skills take time to bloom

Today, I want to give some simple advice you may or may not realize. It’s obvious advice, but it took me a while to truly understand it.

But once I did, I felt a lot less self-loathing and stress at my lack of social ability.
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How to Be Friendly: 5 Tips to Be More Likeable

how-to-be-friendlyDoes it take longer for you to make friends?

Too long sometimes?

Like maybe in the past, when you’ve switched jobs or transferred colleges or cities, people just didn’t seem to engage you or try to make friends.

And even with the few who did engage you first, things didn’t take off. You just got the feeling everyone wished you’d lighten up.

You know in a couple months you’ll probably sway some people who enjoy talking with you, but you’d rather it not take so long.

It’s all got you worried you’re just not giving off that friendly vibe.
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How to Stop Over-Thinking When You Want to Talk to Someone (Reader Question)

Stop Over-thinkingSometimes, don’t you wish you could just get your brain to SHUT UP?

Maybe you see a cute guy or girl you want to talk to or your boss looks free to chat  at the company picnic. So what do you do?

Your head starts spinning up scenarios right?

You think of what you should say first and the way you’ll say it. Then…wait… Maybe you should say it another way that might work better. Yeah, and then if they reply in a certain way, you’ll come back with…

…oh drat. Someone else is talking to them now.

Aaargh! How do you stop the madness? How do you stop over thinking so you stop missing out on your life?

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The Will Ferrell Guide to Overcoming Shyness

Overcoming Shyness

Chazz Michael Michaels: “Mind bottling, isn’t it?”
Jimmy MacElroy: “Did you say mind bottling?”
Chazz Michael Michaels: “Yeah, when things are crazy and it’s like your mind is trapped in a bottle…”

– Blades of Glory

Overcoming shyness can feel like you’re trapped in a glass cage of emotion, right?

You’d like to hang out with the “cool people” or just be more outgoing, but you can’t bring yourself to do it.

Believe it or not, comedian and movie star Will Ferrell says he used to feel that way too. Despite the fact he’s now one of the most successful comedic actors of all time (seemingly with no inhibitions), he admitted he was once “painfully shy.”

So how did he change?

Well, in this post I’ll tell you, but you might not like the answer.

The technique Ferrell used is not exactly for everyone. On top of that, I think it’s only part of the solution to fully overcoming shyness.

So in addition to revealing how Will Ferrell went from shy to Superstar, I’ll give you some bonus tips to overcome shyness so you no longer feel like you’re taking crazy pills.

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7 Sure-Fire Ways to Quickly Improve Self Confidence

 
Build Self EsteemWhat aren’t you doing in your life right now because you lack self confidence?

That can be a big question, because self confidence is so vital to happiness and feeling capable in life. Without it, you get less respect from others, you fear going after your dreams, and you just feel lousy about yourself.

And while building “soul-deep” self esteem can take time, there are ways to begin building practical self confidence today. Here are 7 easy tips to start growing your feelings of self worth quick.

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What is Shyness (and Why NOT Knowing Keeps You Shy)

 

What is shyness

What shyness feels like sometimes

“It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It’s that they can’t see the problem.”

–G. K. Chesterton

Which one are you?

Tongue-tied…quiet…shy…socially anxious…broken…

However you label yourself, if you have trouble talking to people at times you likely suffer from shyness symptoms. And while you probably just want a solution, in reality understanding the problem is the first step to learning how to overcome shyness.

See, often people who experience symptoms of shyness over extended periods (like, say most of your life), just tend to think something is wrong with them.

This is especially true in American culture. Here in the land of the free and the brave, being outgoing, competitive and bigger than life is praised and held as the ideal. If you’re not like that, you can feel “broken.”

Well of course that’s not true, but knowing this intellectually often doesn’t help. You still FEEL you don’t measure up. The problem is, just feeling you’re “broken” keeps you stuck.

You can’t fight that. That’s not “fixable.”

Shyness IS fixable, and if you’re reading this, it’s likely some form of shyness is what’s keeping you quiet, awkward and separated from the life you want. That’s why it’s important to understand what you’re up against so you can begin to find a solution. [Read more…]

Top 8 Tips On Fighting Depression

 

Fighting Depression

Depression can be serious but there are ways to minimize it's effects

The following is a guest post by Tina Miller. Remember, depression can be a serious issue and if you think you need it, you should seek professional help.

Depression is common when a person is under a lot of stress (mainly caused by problems that are not easy to handle).

Depression slows down your immune system; affects your work pace; the way you think; disrupts your daily routine and can even give you physical pains for no apparent reason.

Depression should not be underestimated.

Fighting depression won’t cost much of your time but it will require a little effort and a lot of positivity. Here are some of the best tips on how to fight back depression:

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