How to Remember Names

 

A reader on the Conversation Skills Core Facebook Page recently asked this question:

“How do I remember the person’s name!? Sometimes I just have to forget about trying to remember names just so I can be relaxed enough to enjoy the conversation. I end up asking their name later which isn’t typically an issue but I never like having to do it. Is there something I can do to be better at this?”

It’s an important question.

If you forget someone’s name, it’s hard to concentrate on the conversation isn’t it? You’re standing there distracted so you’re not listening.

On the other hand, remembering a name hours or days later makes the person feel important. It can also give you an advantage, because let’s be honest, they probably have trouble remembering names too.

As famous business and communication expert Dale Carnegie said, “A person’s name is to him or her  the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

So, in this post I’ve included the best techniques I use to remember names in any situation.

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The Best Body Language Tip Ever

 

What gives you the most body language bang for your buck?

It’s an important question, since many communication experts agree non-verbal communication speaks volumes compared to what we actually say.

Now I don’t agree this is always true, but in many vital interactions, like first impressions, it’s valid. If your non-verbals say the wrong thing, the other person can quickly get a negative feeling about you.

But with the right moves, people like you faster and you improve self-confidence.

The problem is, there’s volumes of advice on good body-language out there. And with all the signals, postures, mirroring and such to learn about, it can take years to master.

So, here’s an easy and simple to remember technique (the best body language tip I’ve found), that’ll ensure you’re saying the right things non-verbally. The kind of things that make you a people magnet others want to be around.

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How to Strike-Up Great Conversations, Every Time

 
“Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.” – Jim Rohn

Sometimes you have no problem talking with people. Other times…not so much.

Isn’t that frustrating? Thing is, it’s a nasty problem for the future of your social life, too. Because, if you can’t trust your abilities in some social situations, you lose confidence in all of them.

You’re in constant worry that next time might be the time you have to face rejection.

And all that does is keep you in a shell.

The good news is, consistently having good conversations is a choice. It is! And in this article, I’ll show you how to choose better conversations more often.

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A Quick Way to Think Up Conversation Questions You Can Actually Use

 
So what to talk about? It’s a question we all ask. Unfortunately, it often pops up in situations where you need something to talk about and fast!

Memorized lines can work but much better is to improvise depending on the situation. So here’s a quick technique to help you come up with appropriate conversation questions on the fly.

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How to End a Conversation Positively

Remember the last time you were in a conversation that didn’t end well?

Maybe neither of you had anything left to say. Or the conversation dragged too long and you started counting the times she mentioned her cat?

Perhaps it went well, but Jimmy Fallon would be on in half an hour and you didn’t know how to leave without seeming rude?

So, how to end a conversation positively? It seems simple (and it is), but if you do it well, you increase the chance for future meetings and leave the other person feeling listened to.

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Are You Asking Questions that Boost Conversation?

This type of question boosts conversation

“There is magic, but you have to be the magician. You have to make the magic happen.”

– SIDNEY SHELDON

We all wish for a bit of magic in our social lives.

  • We hope that special someone appears.
  • We dream of spellbinding people quickly.
  • We desire to read thoughts and connect.

Real conversation isn’t quite so instant. But there is a technique that borders on conversational magic.

It hinges on the type of questions you’re asking. And, if you get this little bit of magic right, it compels the other person to talk more, reveal more and feel great about you.

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How to Keep a Conversation Going

Darkness inked the nightclub as he walked in.

I was alone until now, setting up a DJ system worth well over $1,000 for my gig later in the night. I could feel my heart pound in the back of my hands.

Thief? Murderer? No, worse…

Janitor… I’d actually have to talk to this guy.

We were alone in a small club and the fact that we should talk felt like one of those 20,000 lb weights from Looney Tunes hanging in the air.

But what to say? And after that, what next? How would I keep the conversation going? Years ago, that huge cartoon weight would’ve floated in the air uncomfortably. And while I still get those “shy-guy jitters,” at least now I know what to do.

I did start the conversation and kept it going great. That’s what I’ll show you in this post; how to keep a conversation going.

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5 Tips for Better (& Easier) Family Conversation

 
Do you find yourself shy and uncomfortable sometimes even around immediate family members? I know I used to.

This past Easter, my immediate family got together for dinner (well, I include aunts & uncles as immediate, but I’m from Southern Louisiana, so maybe we’re different). We all had a great time and had plenty to talk about.

Funny because it’s so different from the way things used to be. In this post, I’ll share what I did so you can use the same techniques to feel more confident talking with your family too. [Read more…]